Cultivating Prayer: Just Do It

(Today’s reflection comes from an Easter Lutheran member who wishes to remain anonymous.)

For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven:  
a time to be born, and a time to die;
a time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted;
a time to kill, and a time to heal;
a time to break down, and a time to build up;
a time to weep, and a time to laugh;
a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
a time to throw away stones, and a time to gather stones together;
a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
a time to seek, and a time to lose;
a time to keep, and a time to throw away;
a time to tear, and a time to sew;
a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
a time to love, and a time to hate;
a time for war, and a time for peace.
          –Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 (NRSV)

This bible passage is often used at weddings and funerals. I’ve always felt they were poetry. Yet, while they sound beautiful, they were hard for me to understand. I know there’s a time to mourn and a time to laugh but what was the point?  Verse 1 says there’s a time for everything but the verses continue to illustrate points which are 180 degrees apart; diametrically opposed. Is the Bible saying that “Times for Everything” are just the very high and very low?  Until recently I simply let the poetry flow, appreciating the love conveyed yet not really understanding.

Then, a few weeks ago a BRAINSTORM hit me during a sermon – yes, there’s space between weep and laugh; tear down and build; silence and speech.   But who shows up there?? Our loving God is there!  Not just in our highs and lows, ALL the time!  There IS a time for everything–He is waiting for us in every space of our lives, waiting for a deeper relationship.  It’s during that time we cultivate our relationship with God.

To work on that cultivation I am pondering over some notes I took during a recent sermon on prayer—will you join me?


  • Draws us into deeper relationship; it is intensely relational.
  • Is a time to cultivate the relationship.
  • Is a time for speaking the truth, being honest.  (We might be afraid we aren’t getting the prayer “right” or “using the right words,” but what really matters is about having an honest relationship with God.)
  • Gives permission for God to work in our lives.

All this makes me think of that NIKE slogan, “Just do it!” When it comes to prayer, I’m leaning toward “Just cultivate it!”

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May you be blessed while cultivating your relationship with God!



10 Tips on Prayer from Martin Luther

In his short booklet, “A Simple Way to Pray,”* Martin Luther offers a way to dig deeper into prayer, that is, to grow in one’s relationship with God. Written at the request of his friend, the barber, Luther takes what he learned about prayer in the monastery and adapts it for the typical person living “in the world.” Knowing that many people in his time could not read or afford books, Luther describes a way to meditate on material already memorized, such as the Lord’s Prayer, The Apostles’ Creed, or the Ten Commandments. Peasants raking the hay or punching down the bread dough could ponder these Christian wonders in the midst of their daily lives.**

A Simple Way to Pray book by Luther 51NbRdb0PWL__SY344_PJlook-inside-v2,TopRight,1,0_SH20_BO1,204,203,200_Although most of the Luther’s booklet is devoted to explaining how to pray in meditative fashion, there is also general advice about prayer. Here are 10 tips: 

  1. Morning/evening prayer: Pray the first thing you wake up in the morning, and just before going to sleep at night.
  2. Amen!  End your prayer with “Amen,” to show you really mean it. (The word “Amen” means “let it be so,” “many it be true” or “I believe”!)
  3. Work and prayer: The work you do can be a kind of prayer, if you do your work with good moral values–not if you are cheating others, stealing from your boss, etc.
  4. Quality time with God: Although your work is a kind of prayer, don’t neglect to have certain fixed times to just pray. Remember, Luther wrote this book not for monks, but to encourage his barber to pray.
  5. Pay attention. Do your best to pay attention to the words of prayers (at home, at church, wherever), pondering the meaning of the words. Luther says if you want to do your best at something, you give it your whole attention, doing it with focus and concentration, quoting a saying of his time:  “a person engaged in various pursuits, minds none of them well.”
  6. There are many ways to pray: Sing, recite written prayers, use your own words, meditate on the Lord’s Prayer, and many other ways… The point is to use whatever way of praying helps you to put your mind (attention) and heart (genuine love for God) into the quality time you spend with God.
  7. Be yourself before God. Although Luther is giving examples in this letter about how to pray, he reminds people that his own prayers are different on different days. He encourages the use of your own words and feelings with God–you can be honest with God, no matter what the situation.
  8. Listen to the Holy Spirit.  Luther says sometimes when you are praying using his method, the Holy Spirit will grant you a BETTER insight or blessed way of being with God in the moment. When this happens, let go of your prayer “method,” and allow the Spirit to guide your prayer (that is, prayer methods are not laws to obey).
  9. Having trouble praying? Luther writes that sometimes he feels he’s becoming too cold, apathetic, or distracted in his prayer life. When this happens, he sneaks away by himself into a quiet room with the book of Psalms–or sometimes goes to church to pray with others.
  10. Prayer is about kindling a little flame in your heart. Don’t try to do everything at once. “A good prayer should not be long, nor should it be drawn out, but prayed often and fervently. Don’t worry about covering a lot of ground. It is sufficient if you really dig deep on one idea and pray about it, so that you can “kindle a flame in your heart” — this “flame” is given by the Holy Spirit, who will continue to teach and guide us, in ways we could not plan ourselves.

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* Edition used for this article: “A Simple Way to Pray” by Martin Luther, translated by Matthew C. Harrison (Concordia Publishing House, 2012).
**If Martin Luther were alive today, I imagine he would suggest people use short bible passages to practice this same type of meditative prayer–the bibles found on their coffee tables and in their cell phones.

About the writer: Julie McCarty is a spiritual director, writer, and member of Easter Lutheran Church. For more on spiritual direction, visit and look under “connections”: