I read a book review this morning of “The Shattered Lantern” by Ronald Rolheiser on Spirituality & Practice, a website I use daily. In part it quotes a story in the book about St. Francis of Assisi. Click here to read the review.
“One night prior to his conversion, Francis, then a rich and pampered young man, donned his flashiest clothes, mounted his horse, and set off for a night of drinking and carousing. God, social justice, and the poor were not on his mind. Riding down a narrow road, he found his path blocked by a leper. He was particularly repulsed by lepers, by their deformities and smell, and so he tried to steer his horse around the leper, but the path was too narrow. Frustrated, angry, but with his path clearly blocked before him, Francis eventually had no other choice but to get down off his horse and try to move the leper out of his path. When he put out his hand to take the leper’s arm, as he touched the leper, something inside him snapped. Suddenly irrational, unashamed, and undeterred by the smell of rotting flesh, he kissed that leper. His life was never the same again. In that kiss, Francis found the reality of God and of love in a way that would change his life for ever.”
Later it said, ” Concrete contact with the poor is Christian contemplation. It knocks the scales off one’s eyes. ‘Whatsoever you do to the least of my people, that you do unto me,’ Christ assures us. In the poor, God is ever-present in our world, waiting to be met. In the powerless, one can find the power of God; in the voiceless, one can hear the voice of God; in the economically poor, one can find God’s treasures; in the weak, one can find God’s strength; and in the unattractive, one can find God’s beauty.”
“Perhaps the only way we have of not letting ourselves be swallowed whole by our culture is to kiss the leper, to place our lot with those who have no place within the culture, namely, the poor with their many faces: the aged, the sick, the dying, the unborn, the handicapped, the unattractive, the displaced, and all those others that are not valued by the culture. To touch those who have no place within our culture is to give ourselves a perspective beyond culture.”
It struck a chord in me. I t reminded me of an article I read a couple of years ago that I have since lost track of. It talked about getting close to the poor in the broader sense of the word, increasing our ability to better understand the issues they face daily and the ostracization they experience daily,. The article, written by a Catholic bishop, urged us to change our language. Instead of speaking of people as “the” poor, he urged people to use the words, “our poor”.
We are all one in God, we are his people, his sheep, and we are all each other’s neighbor. Therefore, those who have health, financial and societal struggles, are our poor. Hear the difference between “the poor” and “our poor”. Hear the distance “the” allows and the intimacy of “our”. One way allows us to create a good, comfortable gap, like not sitting too close to a stranger in the pew. The other demands we pull people close to us, make their worries our worries, their cares our cares, their success our success.
Consider that those who are depressed or grieving are often given wide berth. We say the right words, give the hugs, send the cards. But mostly, we don’t step into their pile of sadness. Those who look or live differently than we do are accorded the smile, the acknowledgement, the peace be with you even, but we never invite them into our home for a meal. Yet, God calls us to feed his sheep, not in an impersonal, stand outside the fence way, but in an up close, look into their eyes and hear their heart way.
I experienced this recently at a memorial service. My husband and I had sat down when I noticed a woman sitting alone in a pew opposite ours. I looked at her for a while. Then I felt a nudge. It wasn’t my husband. “Let’s move over by that woman sitting alone.” We did. We introduced ourselves and our connection to the friend we had lost. She shared her name and explained quietly, with tears, that she was a former in law who still thought fondly about the man who had passed away. “I knew him for so long. Maybe longer than anyone else here.” I hugged her and before the ceremony began, she shared some memories. During the service, I noticed her crying and put my arm around her. She took my hand. After the service we walked out together and hugged. I don’t remember her name but I will never forget her heart.
This, the week of Thanksgiving, we celebrate a first meal in America, likely fictionalized, to represent a coming together of peoples, vastly different but similar in their kindness. As the story goes, it was not a meal of silence, of distance but one of open thanksgiving and caring.
This Thanksgiving, many of us are headed to tables laden with food but empty of understanding, a wide chasm between us and our meal partners. Perhaps instead of looking at each other as a political party supporter, we get closer and look into each other’s eyes and hear their heart. Perhaps, we find a similarity of kindness. Perhaps we see each other as belonging to each other. One of my favorite Mother Teresa quotes says, “If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten we belong to each other.”
I wish you a Thanksgiving of plenty and enough.